Object of Affection

Long ago a favorite expression to define a difficult search was to describe it as "looking for a needle in a haystack."  Envision the process of doing just that.  What would be your first action?  Perhaps if you knew where the needle entered that may be a good start.  Some may even imagine using a metal detector or even a blower to level the stack.  No matter the method, the process of finding the needle could prove a very time consuming act. The time it would take to make the discovery could only be afforded by a few tenacious people who are also extremely patient.

Some people think love is as difficult to find as that needle.  Love is easy to find and even easier to bestow.  The difficulty rests in what is viewed as the object of affection.  Previously on this blog it was stated that before you can shower anyone else with love, you must first love yourself. Said before and now again, to love self does not render you as selfish or self absorbed.  To love oneself denotes that you find confidence in your being, you are secure in the thought that you have the power to execute changes in your life if changes are needed and you elect to do it.  

ometimes a person assess their state of being and find that areas of their lives need to be re-engineered.  So what do they do?  Many leave the assessment while hoping and wishing for change to come. Many others take the first step on a journey of change and cause the change that's needed because they know with every action there is a reaction.  You are the first object of your affection and this love too requires your attention and care.

To be content with who you are, knowing that you are capable of adjusting yourself if need be  equips you for interaction with others.  Discontented relationships are the way they are because discontented people are involved.  Such relationships harbor many ills.  To name a few you will find frequent disconnects in communication, anger, deception, feelings of inferiority.  Remember, one's behavior is a mirror of one's thinking.  Keep focused on  respecting and loving self and you will begin to see respect and love of/from others.  Why?  Because the object of affection is like bright lights to a moth - the glow attracts.

Many would never give a second thought to searching for a needle in a haystack.  If one were to consider doing it the first action would be the decision to carry out such a search.  It can be done, may not be so easy, but it can be done.  It all starts with you.

Restore Love.