Rejected or Neglected

So, the excitement is over, the phone calls are few, the text messages one in a three day stretch, and the emails bearing sweet notes of adoration have ceased. You are now pass the introductory stage in your relationship feeling a bit more familiar with "the one you chose", that same one you invited into your world. Rather than the relationship evolving you begin to witness its extinction. What was once thrilling becomes lukewarm as your emotional temperatures drop.

"What happened?" you ask. Have you been rejected or neglected? That seems to be the question on your mind. Before answering this question, consider this:
If you are in pain and rather befuddled being jettison from daily conversations, holding hands and wee morning chats to no communication at all then quite possibly you've been rejected.
If you are still in communication with a weekly call, one line texts here and there that wishes you well and hopes that you're having a great day then perhaps its neglect.

But wait, what do your emotions say? What do you feel?
Surely if you feel rejected or neglected it does not feel good and for those who have much at stake or who are deeply involved it hurts. Lost passion, loss of interest, or finding that the person is to complex or too absorbed for you to comprehend- no matter the reason - the end result is the same. The one you want does not appreciate you; its as simple as that.

When you are interested in and appreciate someone you find a way to connect with them. When you appreciate someone you capture every available opportunity you can summon to chat with them, to hear them, to see them, to share your world with them, you want to know them better. You miss them when they are away from you. You desire to see them. So if you feel this way appreciating them then why it is so difficult for them to express their appreciation of you?

One great reason is that some men and women will always be on low emotional scales because they dwell at some past point in time where they once enjoyed their life. They hang around in halls of the past hoping to relive "once upon a time" rather than recreating their lives to stay in touch with what is happening now. They have false expectations that someone, something from the past will invite them back so they wait as they hold out/hold back on now. While in this state of wait they become self absorbed and saddened being incapable of appreciating the joys of the present.

Try as you may to influence participation if you are in a relationship where you are unappreciated, more than likely you will waste your time, however, you can manage and control your life and feelings. Accept the fact that your behavior to make a connection was honest, open and filled with perpetual love. Accept that you will be okay, hoping for the other all the goodness and joy you hope for yourself then release them from your heart and mind.

Create joy within yourself, use that energy to attract who and what you will have in your life and then share your joy and your love.

Let's Restore Love.

Embrace Love

It is of no surprise during America's lean economic times that many lives are dominated by boredom and emptiness as they face leaner pockets from financial strife. Many have a tendency to mentally fold inward, moving into a cave of loneliness to try and sort things out. The excitement and vitality of their relationships that once was has turned to disaffection and hostility.

When one's security is threatened it actually fuels hostility because so many lives are governed strictly through the emotions- and yes let's face it -money is a needed tool in our lives in that the things which sustains us cost. When faced with financial issues fear and worry become the mental dictates for many. It is so easy to spin away with dictates of negative emotions.

During these times you must create a loving environment within your relationships and be aware of growth and potential which always exist in chaos. Move toward those you love and care about and not away from. Now is not the time to visit your cave. As you move towards them , see love as a practice of acceptance. Accept and acknowledge the fact of the situation as it is and then begin to work on/through it. Embrace your family , your partners, your special someone, include them , engage them in critical conversations. All will be better off for it.

Eliminate any idea that you will not get through these difficult times; be optimistic about your future. The future we created yesterday is happening now and we have the opportunity to see what is working or not as we plan tomorrow today. Accept that whatever upsets you're experiencing there is a solution; lay your plan, set your goal, work it until you are where you want or need to be.

Be alive to new possibilities, in your relationships at this time. Allow your love to evolve at this time. Watch these lean times turn to a period of recovery and yes you can go ahead and say it; looks like we made it.

Let's Restore Love