Loving someone can be compared as developing a good habit ; at least that's the conclusion of a conversation a few days ago. A friend recently quit smoking and began relishing the freedom from the habit that once gripped him. The once pallid spirit he possessed was revitalized, reenergized and filled with joy. The same steps that gets one deep into a bad habit can also be the steps to get someone into a good habit. The practice of loving can be that habit.
When relationships lack vitality it is because they have fallen into the bottomless pit of routine. The automatic pilot is switched on and remains as the relationship flies deeper into a rut. You can change this only if you are willing and want the best of great relationships with your loved ones.
Just as one would decide that cigarettes, over-eating, etc, must be dealt with to increase the quality of their lives, you must also use the same will to rescue your relationship from that apathetic stage known as the bottomless pit of slothful interaction.
When you've reached that stage you begin to hear ( such things as, "we don't laugh together anymore", or "we don't go out as much as we used to", or "we haven't done that in a long time." Each person in the relationship is responsible for making it work. This does not mean that your life becomes a circus either, rather be actively concerned and involved with those who matter to you.
No matter what category your relationship is grouped as - casual, family, intimate, whatever- it can fall into a rut. Its up to you to enrich it. To love is a personal experience which each person can have only for themselves. To take love to the heights that you want it is to have the willingness to change it into whatever you want it to be.
So change it.
