If you've ever considered yourself as being in love with someone special try to remember when you first discovered that person. Think back to dating them, going out together, holding hands, having a meal. traveling, the long conversations into the wee morning hours. On some other level, remember bathing together, living together, walks in the rain together. Do you remember?
Remember when it was all eyes on each other? Remember when you first kissed that person and you swore your feet were melting or that your heart skipped a beat? Can you recall their arms around you or you saying goodbye but not wanting to leave?
Remember when you looked in their eyes feeling there was no one else in the world for you except this one? The one to fill the void within you. Remember loves' nuance as you -needing to be close-whispered to each other? Oh how you laughed together then.
Think for a moment now and ask yourself what you wanted of the person? Was it to be with them forever? Was it an attraction to the person's body or their mind? Was the attraction for what they possessed or what they could cause you to possess? What were you seeking? Was it sex, money, a house, status, or did you think they would be your trophy to parade in public? ...What? How did you trick yourself into thinking this person could/would bring about joy and happiness that comes with love?
Take a look now where you are (if you're still there.) Are you still laughing together? Do you feel whole or has there been a reversal of the void? Has the bickering begun? Are you still excited when you see the person or have they become as furniture; you realize the presence but when not needed leave it alone. More importantly, do you respect them for who they are at this point?
Contemplate these things until next time when we address communication, the largest task to accomplish in any relationship.
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