Honesty, Seldom Heard

You have heard it said by others and perhaps even yourself that everybody lies. What a travesty for all to live with the acceptance of falsehoods as the norm. If one lives in this manner then all actions will be of this manner leading to a crumbling of self and society. You may ask, "what does this have to do with loving self and others." The answer; everything. Love is repressed by lies flowing through the conscious and sub conscious mind in much the same way as sickle cell in the blood stream.
Not only the liar, also the one who is the object of the lie, feel its effects. The liar is affected when the lie is spoken and the object once discovering the false details; both are left scarred as the pattern of the lie is weaved mentally and emotionally.
Think for a moment of making a purchase from a salesperson who promoted the item to be a wonderful thing then you find out its not. You probably experienced an upset that stimulated anger causing you to tell everyone you know that what you purchased and where from was not worth your time or cost. In business, the reputation suffers because the customer is lost and the customer,dissatisfied, becomes a scrutinizer of the business along with other businesses.
Think again of those you trusted, they agreed to certain promises but did not keep them nor felt concerned enough to inform you that there was a change in the script of the promise. The asininity of this again triggers anger with most people. This act of lying has caused many broken relationships whereby the liar is barred from crossing the bridge to amends yet they continue in the same mode of lying to others.
Think once more of the couple that commit to loving one another, "forsaking all others..."
The commitment shatters like broken glass when one of them lying in their action seeks external fulfillment rather than devise a means to correct issues within their commitment.
What is the necessity for lying? There isn't any but most people feel frightened by the consequences they must bear or reactions of whom they are lying to. Often they do not want their true characters to be revealed to the other person. Seldom are they willing to assess their character and say to themselves, "I don't want to portray myself in this manner." The one that does the assessment reaps great rewards. The very first reward: a content mind. Love thrives in a mind at peace. Said before and now again, one actually must love self to truly love someone else. A practice of honesty to self creates a paradigmatic block that prevents lying to others.
To love is to stop lying. Honesty is a prerequisite to restore love.